Say Yes

Recently I have been feeling particularly happy in life and with my course.  Our most recent brief is based on a young audience which is right up my street as I definitely want to focus on children’s illustrations when I finish my degree. 

One of my housemates informed me of a project called stories2connect. An extremely worthwhile cause that is helping children/young adults communicate with each other and share their stories about their disabilities, time as young carers and life as foster kids.  It’s a project that has been working with people from Barnados and so is extremely touching and lovely. The reason my friend told me about this project is because the people organising it are looking for artists to participate and create covers/illustrations for the stories told by the people involved. It’s an amazing opportunity but also will be tricky to schedule in with my timetable.  But it got me thinking that opportunities like this don’t come up frequently and it’s beneficial to me as well as the other participants of the project.

I realised that in life we should say yes to more. Yes to helping people out, yes to taking on fun things even if we don’t think we’ve got time and yes to promoting your own abilities. Why not read a book someone wants to lend you, or watch a film with your friends or spend more time with your family. We only fail to do these things because we don’t schedule them in, but I can almost guarantee that if you say yes to these experiences you’ll also find the time to do whatever might be making you consider saying no.

As an aspiring illustrator connections are key to my future. I need to get my name out there to meet the right people and to try and be successful but also I should take opportunities like this one purely to help the worthy people who started this project. Say yes to making other people’s lives better and in turn you’re saying yes to your own future.

best wishes from a tiny girl xx 

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Say Yes

Motivation & Procrastination 

Staying motivated is a tricky thing to learn how to do. I’m yet to work out how to work as much as I am physically able but I do have a few tips on how to attempt to stay motivated.

My uni degree is strongly based on self motivation. I get given a brief and a deadline and have to come up with the work inbetween that with only some scheduled influence or advice from my tutors/peers inbetween. Most of the time this is fine as I love my course and the majority of its content but sometimes I get so focused on wanting to do well that I panick and avoid making any firm progress for fear that it won’t be good. Silly I know, but it happens. Here are some of the things I do when I find myself lacking in motivation:

1. Make lists but make sure they’re realistic, give yourself enough tasks to do while still pushing yourself but not so many that you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.

2. Find your way of working. This may be listening to music or perhaps working in silence. In a squishy chair or a hard one. Find it and stick to it.

3. Give yourself breaks and treats to work towards.  Tell yourself I’ll have a break and eat some chocolate in X amount of minutes provided I have done a certain amount of my work.

4. Give yourself time off over the weekend/evenings. Plan to be in bed by a certain time every night so you can read a chapter of your current book before sleeping. Plan to spare a few hours to watch a film or go for a walk on the weekend.

5. Learn to know when you’re procrastinating and try and get back to work as soon as you notice that’s what you’re doing. 

6. Give yourself a change of scenery. Go and discuss your work with someone else to get new ideas and also to allow yourself to move around while still working.

7. Try and find a way to enjoy what you’re doing and don’t be afraid of making mistakes and having to start again.

A slightly different blog to usual but I hope it’s helpful!

best wishes from a tiny girl xx 

Motivation & Procrastination 

Be Selfish.

A while ago I made a blog post called ‘Head Over Heart’.  I spoke about how sometimes it’s ok to side with your heart and not overthink the logistics of a situation too much.  This post is almost a follow up of that.  I briefly talked about my ‘relationship status’ as such, explaining that I wasn’t sure whether to go with my head or my heart when it came to getting better acquainted with a guy that I was talking to.  I decided to side with my heart, to look past the doubts and just see what happened.  We met up, I had a lovely time but in the end I decided that it would be more sensible to allow my head to win in this situation.

What I’m trying to say in this post is; lead with your heart but allow your head to take over when necessary.  Take risks but when you realise they’re not going to work out it’s alright to change your mind.

I ended up in a situation I’ve never really been in before.  I was the person who had to turn this guy down.  The reason I have titled this post ‘be selfish’ is because sometimes you have to be.  Sometimes we have to put ourselves first and do what is right by us even if it means momentarily hurting someone else’s feelings.  I felt awful when I had to tell this guy that it wasn’t going to work out; that despite getting on with him I couldn’t move forward with him romantically, because I knew what I was saying would upset him.  However it wouldn’t have been fair to carry things on when my head and heart were so full of doubts.  So I was selfish in order to benefit the both of us in the long run.

If you’re questioning a relationship like I was and you don’t know whether to carry it I highly suggest reading this blog post (linked here ) as it helped me to realise what I was doing was for the best.

I hope that it is clear that I don’t mean you should be selfish all the time but that it’s ok  to put yourself first without feeling guilty about it, whether this be with ending an unhealthy friendship/relationship or speaking out for yourself at work or school.  It’s perfectly fine to prioritise yourself as you should first and foremost want the best for yourself in order to then be able to help others.

best wishes from a tiny girl xx

Be Selfish.

Live In The Now!

I have often spoken about the fact that I am currently studying Illustration at University, about how much I enjoy my course and how I fully believe in doing what you love.  What I haven’t mentioned is how sometimes I find myself dwelling on the future and worrying about things that are yet to come.  I often find myself panicking about the fact that my career choice is so competitive which means I may not be financially stable when I come to leave university and pursue my career as an illustrator.  This can be difficult to deal with as I genuinely want to do what I love but at the same time I want to be comfortable and self dependent meaning I need to be able to provide for myself.  It’s difficult in moments like this not to get bogged down and stuck in a rut of self doubt, fear and worries of a future that has yet to take place.

I am someone who strives towards optimism, so when I have moments like this I really struggle.  I have to tell myself that there is no use worrying over an unpredictable future.  That as long as I’m doing what I love and believing in myself I will achieve what I want to achieve and that everything happens for a reason.  Sometimes as humans I think it’s hard not to worry about the past and the future, but what we should really think about and focus on is what is happening in the present because that is the only thing that will and can determine our future; and even then sometimes things will change and happen for a reason.

Things like financial stability are worries that many people have, but it’s important to remember that some of the poorest people in the world are happier than some of the richest.  That you can find happiness in nearly every situation and that the majority of problems have a solution.  Financial stability is something that I’ve been dwelling on recently but the idea of ‘living in the moment’ applies to many things; whether it be uncertain relationships, indulging in a certain food for a special treat, or any other little worry that us human beings may be having.

My message for this blog post is, if you’re like me and have a tendency to overthink situations or make up scenarios in your head that might never happen, then take a step back, have a breather, read a book or do something that will take your mind off of whatever it is that you’re worrying about and just live in the now.  Do what you love, try your hardest in everything you do, and simply be happy.

best wishes from a tiny girl xx

 

Live In The Now!

Positivity and Happiness

Positivity is key. Ever heard that before? Well being in the art industry I realised how hard it can sometimes be to stay positive and believe in your own abilities to do well.  Over this summer I drew more in my free time than I probably ever have before and I became so much more motivated to do well and actually began to believe that my illustrations could go somewhere if I push myself hard enough.

In the past people have told me they think I’m a positive person and it wasn’t really until recently when I taught myself how to be positive about my own work that I realised I could truly help other people become more positive about themselves. It really is the small things that count. Telling someone you believe in them and their ability to do well can make all the difference to help that person feel more motivated. By creating this atmosphere people will start to achieve more because they’ll put more effort and love into what they’re doing.

I know for a fact that there are times where I will say something unkind (usually to a family member) for no particular reason. I really want that to change because being negative to others only makes you feel more negative about yourself and your environment. Spreading the love literally makes the world a better place for everyone that is in it and that’s something the world could definitely do with right now. But if you’re in a position where you’re receiving negativity from someone turn it into a positive and use it as motivation to prove them wrong! 

So if you know someone who’s having self doubt about their own abilities go and tell them how good they really are and see if my theory is right and that not only the person receiving the positive comments but also you yourself will feel better for it.

best wishes from a tiny girl xx 

Positivity and Happiness

Head Over Heart

When I first started this blog years ago I posted a very personal and somewhat sappy blog post called ‘Love and Heartbreak’ I removed it when I came back to my blog a year or two later and I have been worried to post anything similar since.

This is not going to be a post like that but it perhaps might skim the surface to try and get my point across.

I have been single for three years now and that’s something that I’m completely comfortable with, my last few relationships ended badly and I realised I needed the time to heal and find the person within me that was capable of creating their own happiness. I feel I have achieved this, I have never been someone who avidly seeks love and believe that what will be will be; I’ll stumble into it rather than chase it. But recently I have been faced with a strange situation.  I have been talking to a mutual friend after getting to know them through my friend. So far we get on really well and I eventually started to allow myself to think of a future where we perhaps start seeing each other more regularly. The only issue is I find myself in a head over heart conflict as there are a few reasons that this would be a tricky relationship to start let alone maintain, the main reason being the distance between where we both live. I backtracked and started righting it off in my mind but I couldn’t help myself from repeatedly facing that dreaded “what if” question. 

It got me thinking that in some situations siding with your heart might be the better option in the long run. Yes your head is most likely thinking realistically and a lot of the time that’s great but what if you miss out on a one time opportunity purely because you over think it.  Sometimes in life we have to take chances, even if that means it not working out and you getting hurt. That’s life, and that’s how we grow as human beings.

This doesn’t just apply to romantic situations either. I’ve done this before when I’ve seen an item I’d love to by but tell myself I don’t actually need it and walk away. Sometimes that’s fine but other times I find myself thinking about the item for weeks or months later and I realise just that once I probably should have sided with my heart as you’re allowed to try and keep yourself happy aswell as be sensible.

I’m not sure if head over heart situations ever get easier over time but I think maybe sometimes we should give into our hearts as often they know what is good for us. 

I still haven’t decided what to do with the situation I mentioned at the start of this post but maybe I should take my own advice and just go for it, after all what have I got to lose? 

best wishes from a tiny girl xx 

Head Over Heart

Live Through Literature 

Reading. Something I feel people don’t do as much of anymore. We read when we’re on holiday or we simply “don’t have time”.

I used to be both of the above. During school I’d only have time for my school work, extra curricular activities and catching up with friends. During the holidays I’d read about six books, wish I read more often, but then settle back into my old habits as soon as school started up again.

By my last term of Uni I realised I never made time for reading anymore. The book that I had on my bedside table I had been attempting to get through for the past two years. When I realised this I made it my mission to finish the book and read more once I had.  I started to make sure that by 10pm I was completely ready for bed and would set aside that time to read for an hour before going to sleep.  Not only did it mean I was able to read more books but also that I set myself a good routine, I was off any kind of electronic device an hour before bedtime and I was therefore sleeping much better.

During the summer holidays I have been rereading books that I read when I was about ten years younger than I am now. They have all been books that are both child and adult friendly and I have found I have been enjoying them much more the second time round. I have noticed things I didn’t before, have been able to appreciate certain situations due to having more life experience myself and I have learnt from them; things about who I am, what I like and who I want to be.

I genuinely believe the saying ‘you are what you read’ is pretty true. I think you pick things up from books, that they mould you and shape you as a human being. Reading books can only bring goodness to your life, and those people who say they don’t enjoy it just haven’t yet found the book for them.

I am from now on going to keep reading and rereading books. Exploring new world’s and hoping that all the while I am learning becoming more creative and overall a better person because of it.

best wishes from a tiny girl xx 

Live Through Literature